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  We Disassociated Ourselves Tonite!!!

  by LyinEyes in

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  local elder called tonite, with a witness on the phone to ask if it is true we were smoking ?

  we said yes, and we know who told on us.

  it was a ms who was at the club just last week with another woman, not his wife of course, while she was at the meeting.

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  Lady Lee

  This is so cool

  Now let me ask you. Have you ever heard of someone having Xmas in July? I did and it was great fun.Go for it.

  Celebrate!!!
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  ELDER'S WIVES AND CHILDREN

  by minimus in

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  have you ever noticed how some elder's families are the worst example in the congregation?

  some wives lord it over the rest and think they are special , while some kids get away with all sorts of things because of big daddy.

  have you ever had a problem because an elder's family got away with something and you got blamed for it?

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  Lady Lee

  As an elder's wife we lived in fear. My girls were held to impossible standards. We were all expected to be perfect role models. The stress on all three of us was incredible and made me very sick.

  He never spoke of private matters to me. I learned most of what was going on because as the youngest elder's wife many of the younger wives came to me with their problems. None were so serious that I would have repeated them to my husband. Thankfully I was never in that position. But most people knew that I was a good person to listen to them and offer support without opening a Bible evey 5 seconds.

  The other elder's wives were pretty good except for a couple. One was Ms Gossip. If we wanted something known we told her. She was a special pioneer so got out on service with a lot of different people so was able to spread the stories faster than wildfire.

  The other wife was a pain. She really took glory by being an elder's wife. She was the only one of color and she used that to put other JWs of color down. It was sad because no one wanted anything to do with her. She also was clearly the boss in that house. And she yelled and and beat her kids. No one respected her and certainly no one went to her when they had a problem.

  Oh gosh now I am thinking of 2 others in another cong I was in. One was a real nasty b*tch. Thought it was her job to tell everyone what to do. The other loved to tell dirty jokes. What a pair those two were.

  I'm glad I got my girls out when they were 12 and 8. Enough damage was done even by that time but they are both free now and didn't have to go through the teen years as a JW like I did.
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  THERAPISTS

  by sisteract in

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  does anybody know of a witness named bob langston who was in malden, ma.

  and medford, ma.

  who claimed to be a licensed therapist and had many of the friends (especially the sisters) as his clients?

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  Lady Lee

  Oh gawd waiting I read your last line 5 minutes ago and am still laughing. The imagery!!!

  Unfortunately I have seen the "picking balls syndrome" What I have noticed is that they are constantly trying to readjust positions or underwear. Perhaps they are too tight or too loose but the discomfort tends to send men to the area to picking the offending garment away from the area.

  Despite the fact that I don't have any of the said balls I do have (and have lived in the same house with) 3 brothers, 3 uncles, 1 father, 1 step-father, 6 boarders, 1 husband, 1 live-in boyfriend, and 1 foster father (who was a gentleman in front of mixed company and the only one I never saw him pick his balls), and now a second husband (and Yes I have seen him do it.)

  Maybe men need to be fitted for their underwear like we get fitted for some of ours.
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  My mommy doesn't want me. . I need a hug

  by StinkyPantz in

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  i sent my mom a letter not too long ago telling her that i wanted my family back.

  well, i got a very unexpected response.

  she basically said "no".

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  Lady Lee

  Stinky Pantz My mother has made it very clear she doesn't want me. It hurt for a long time. Then it got better. I realized she is trapped and controlled by an org that insists this shunning is a form of love. It is totally wrong and dysfunctional. I think that even if they realize that it hurts they are afraid to break the rules. In the end it winds up being rather selfish to give up your kids in case God gets angry with you. But that is exactly what they have been taught.

  None of us can change that. I doubt my mother will ever leave or change. If she did leave and try to re-establish a relationship with me she would then have to acknowledge how unloving her behavior has been. In the case of MY mother - I doubt she could do that.

  I have found other "mothers" in my life. Family is who I choose and my choices are healthier that what I was born to.

  Yup it still hurts sometimes. Sometimes I still get angry. But it is less all the time. I choose to move forward in my life. We can all do the same. You are not alone and there are many here who will understand because they go through it daily too.

  (((HUGS))) to you and everyone else here who deals with this particular pain.
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  THERAPISTS

  by sisteract in

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  does anybody know of a witness named bob langston who was in malden, ma.

  and medford, ma.

  who claimed to be a licensed therapist and had many of the friends (especially the sisters) as his clients?

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  Lady Lee

  I feel sick. That any supposed therapist could behave in such an unprofessional manner is beyond me. There are standards and they are there for a reason. But this man seems beyond all moral sense.

  Yes I know men grab and scratch and whatever but in a professional seeting you would expect some sense of respect for the person you are working with and respect for yourself. Seems he had neither.

  Good for you for honoring how you felt and getting out of there.

  I cannot imagine the poor people who worked with this baboon. He most certainly would have caused more damage to them. And any therapist who breaks confidentiality for ANY reason deserves to lose his license. Even religion is not an good excuse. I am horrified that any professional would do this.
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  A loss of Life, A tribute to my nieces....

  by Cassiline in

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  thirteen years ago my nieces were murdered.

  today is a hard day for me, remembering the phone call the shock and pain.

  lives stolen in a moment.

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  Lady Lee

  (((Cassie)))
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  What "SIN" do elders respond to fastest?

  by Dismembered in

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  maybe it's just me but, it seem like "elders" respond extremely quickly to "sexual misconduct" as long as it does not involve their own family members.

  true or false?

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  Lady Lee

  sexual misconduct by a woman - probably not as much a thrill if it is a man telling what he did
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  I went to the Convention on Friday. NOW with pict

  by Lady Lee in

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  i was bored to death.

  i deposited cards around the place that said .

  stop.

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  Lady Lee

  OK I went back to look at the picture - Did you notice the man is playing while the women are doing all the work - typical mysogynist thinking

  Don't think I want to be there
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  How about some embarrassing 80's pics?

  by LyinEyes in

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  let's post some of our 80's pic, or even further back if you want to.

  it would really be fun to see some of you in your finest witness attire, bookbag and all.

  baptism pics would be a blast to see.. wild turkey had this idea ,but he already started two threads.

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  Lady Lee

  MorrisLamb I bet a lot more people saw me than the other way around. One guy used to follow me around all the time and tell me how much he liked watching me sign - really gave me the creeps.
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  I went to the Convention on Friday. NOW with pict

  by Lady Lee in

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  i was bored to death.

  i deposited cards around the place that said .

  stop.

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  Lady Lee

  silentlambs - thank you for the clarification

  I literally jumped up when I thought I put the wrong address on the cards but I did put .org on them but what a relief to know that even if I put .com they would find you

  BTW the afternoon was terribly boring but I hung in ther

  Actually at one point they announced that a brother would speak who lives in a town not that far from my mother --- which kept me wondering if she was there OMG I tell you I scanned that arena so hard. I think I saw a woman on the far side who looked like her and sat like her but I could not figure out if it was her.

  Then to keep myself awake I thought of all the things I might say if I did run into her

  1. Hey there mom Why didn't you call the police when you found out _____ was having sex with me?
  2. Hey mom are you still shunning me because I am an apostate?
  3. Hi mom so what do you think of all the information on Dateline about sexual abuse in the org?
  4. Hey Mom Can you tell me why you still can't explain one JW beleif after 39 years sitting and listening to this litter-ature?
  5. Mom? Doesn't it bother you that you can drink like a fish and beat your kids and still be "in good standing" in the cong?

  These and a lot of other thoughts kept me wide awake for quite a while